My mother told me that as a woman, I need to stand on my own feet. She sent me to the best school my family could afford, for my future. But when I got there, I began to wonder, why do some lessons that teach us to judge other women end up shrinking our own dreams? On my first day in junior high, there was a sex education class. One lesson I still remember was that a woman’s hymen must tear on her wedding night—or her husband could divorce her. This was taught as a warning against premarital sex, said to protect moral and religious values. Instead, it made me easily blame women in many cases, even in situations I later recognized as sexual violence. One such case is the “menstruation raids” that happen in some schools with Islamic values. If a certain number of students are not praying with the excuse of menstruation—Muslim women whose menstruation is prohibited to pray—the students will be raided to prove their menstruation. The methods of raid vary, from touching the feminine area, showing blood in the pad, or asking students to insert tissue into their vaginal area. When I grew up, I realized this was a fallacy in the process of education. Teachers use an instant way to nurture the values of morals and religion, but the method they chose was violating the values themselves. For me, the victims are not only the girls’ bodies and privacy, but also how those values shape the way we dream and imagine our future.